Does Politics Affect Relationships? Ask a Divorce Solicitor in London

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The past few years have lead to some seismic changes in the global political landscape, so it’s worth asking how relationships have fared in all of this

At first glance, it appears as if politics and romance often have nothing to do with each other. Any divorce solicitor in London will be able to tell you that the vast majority of marital friction comes from issues relating to other factors, primarily money.

However, when politics does affect relationships, it can affect them deeply. What’s more, politics affects relationships in ways which people aren’t often consciously aware of.

Political “Mixed Marriages”

Despite living in a multicultural age, most people still tend to marry someone with the same ethnicity as them. What’s perhaps even more surprising is that the trend is even more pronounced in politics. In the US, only one in ten married couples are “mixed” marriages between Republicans and Democrats.

There are likely many reasons for this. After all, politics is essentially about what rights and freedoms people should have or not have. If a couple can’t find a way to see eye to eye on that front, it can be hard to plan a life together or raise a family. The evidence suggests that, for 90% of people in America, this is all so hard that people don’t bother. Instead, they opt to marry someone who they already agree with.

Alongside this, it’s also important to consider that your lifestyle already says a lot about your politics. In the US, there is a strong correlation between certain kinds of jobs and certain political views.

Some of these correlations are quite predictable (an environmentalist is much more likely to be a Democrat and an oil worker is much more likely to be a Republican), though some seem completely arbitrary (a paediatrician is much more likely to be a Democrat and a Urologist is much more likely to be a Republican).

So if you meet your future spouse at work, then it’s very likely you already agree with each other politically. However, what about if you meet them outside of work?

Divorce Solicitors in London Are More Likely to Deal with Pro-EU Couples

In the US, a long-standing idea has been that some states are “Blue” (which means they vote Democrat) and some states are “Red” (which means they vote Republican). However, that’s not really how it works. The reality is that the cities are “Blue” and the countryside is “Red” as a map of voters in the US by county (rather than state) clearly shows.

While British politics is different, a similar trend emerges. The seats which the Conservative Party won were mostly in rural areas (with many seats in Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland being a major exception to this) and the seats which the Labour Party won were mostly in urban areas.

This is why London is such a pro-EU, Labour stronghold. It’s also why, statistically, divorce solicitors in London are more likely to deal with pro-EU, Labour marriages.

In short, where you live and the job you have already largely determines your politics, so you are more likely to meet and fall in love with someone who you already agree with politically. What’s more, political bubbles on social media exaggerate this effect even further.

Yet, as previously mentioned, not everyone does fall in love along party lines. So what happens when you meet someone from outside of your political bubble and marry them?

Vote for Love

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Against all the odds, marriage across political divides can and does work. The key is to recognise and respect the fact that your partner’s political ideology is not a whim. It’s the result of a process which was as long and complicated as the process which led to your political ideas.

Internet personality and author John Green put it best when he said that the key to talking to someone across the other side of a political divide boils down to three words: imagine others complexly.

Regardless of your political ideas, everybody votes for their particular candidate because they believe it will lead to a better country. The only thing that mixed political couples disagree on is how to go about creating a better country.

If you need a London divorce solicitor, contact KMJ Solicitors for a high-quality service from a practice listed in the Legal 500 Family Law.

Clayton spent five years working in family law with a firm in Australia before moving to the UK in 1999. He deals with all aspects of family law, specialising in all family matters, offshore trusts, company structures, international law, prenuptial agreements, high net worth cases and cohabitation law.